Hear me out…like you, sometimes my fear gets out of hand. Sometimes it’s uncalled for or all in my head and other times it keeps me safe…like in dark alley ways or sketchy parking lots at night.
So often we get too far ahead of ourselves and determine all of the reasons why we’ll fail before we even start. Fear will continue to be present in your life at one moment or another and so being “fearless” all the time is impractical, impossible, and pretty unrealistic. If being fearless is undeniably unattainable and we can’t move forward without achieving that state of mind, then in theory the pursuit of fearlessness itself leaves us stuck…indefinitely….no?
Maybe the point is to listen and lean into our courage instead. Perhaps, instead of wishing for life to be easier, we committed to face our fears with strength, confidence and resiliency. It seems to me that brave movement forward, intimidating as it may be, is still progress and I'll take that over fearlessly stuck any day!!
Author James Clear argues that grit is the number one defining element of geniuses:
“How do creative geniuses come up with great ideas? They work and edit and rewrite and retry and pull out their genius through sheer force of will and perseverance. They earn the chance to be lucky because they keep showing up…No single act will uncover more creative powers than forcing yourself to create consistently…” While I’ve not reached all my goals…YET!…I AM hustling for them! I put in the countless hours, I learn new skills when needed, I’m constantly trying new techniques and I make great sacrifices of my time and energy. I do it because I love what I do! It’s worth it and my dreams are worth every challenge, every sacrifice, every stumble and subsequent fall, and yes, the triumphant comebacks, the new opportunities, and the reward of achievement too!
Hustling is Hard! That’s the truth…not gonna lie. It takes next level determination, resiliency, commitment and consistency! I think when it comes to maintaining a habit and not burning out, there's another important piece to the puzzle: grace.
Grace meaning the act or instance of kindness or courtesy. Grace meaning the quality or state of being considerate or thoughtful. I realized when I leaned into my grit, my ability to stick with it and keep showing up for myself, I also needed to find grace. I needed to find personal grace and foster kindness to myself. To be gentle and forgiving towards myself when timelines were longer than I anticipated, when growth wasn’t happening fast enough and when I felt like I wasn’t enough!
There are days that the very best thing for me is to take the day off or to keep it super simple. It wasn’t easy in the beginning but I now give myself permission to take those days when I need them. In fact, allowing myself that grace from time to time is what makes it possible for me to stick with it over the long haul. Along with grit, I'm learning grace and I think that will help in the even longer haul. I don’t know exactly what the future holds, but I’m stepping forward with Grit anchored in Grace!